Video Blog: Stop Letting Emotion Control Your Words!

When tension breaks out between you and your partner, do anger and blame take you over – so totally! – that you can’t stop yourself from saying things that can only make it all worse – even if you are TOTALLY RIGHT? Here’s a little teaching that might help you out…to watch the video if you’re on this blog’s front page, click on this article’s title, or else just click this link.

Video Blog: Heal Relationship Stress With Psychic Method! (just hear me out, ok?)

OK, my title sounds pretty dubious  – do you like the picture? – but no matter who you are, if you’re stressed out in your relationship, and you watch the video, you will know I speak only Truth about your problem – and the solution! If you are on the front page of the blog, click on this article’s title for the video, or else just click here to watch it.

No More Anxiety and Panic Attacks – Step One

Anxiety and panic attacks are epidemic. I hope this brief video is helpful in opening the door to your journey: to ending this torment once and for all…to access the video click here (or if you are on the blog front page, click on the title of this intro first, then the link will appear…)

Video Blog: Is Your Partner Too Insecure (or anxious or depressed)?

I wish I didn’t see this so often with couples – one partner feels the other is just way too anxious or insecure – and they’re sick of it! But no matter how much of a “good guy” or gal they think they’ve been, it is almost ALWAYS the case that they haven’t worked as deeply as they think…if you’re on this blog’s homepage with all the other articles, first click on the title of this article – then once you’re one the page where this article is all by itself, you will be able to
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Is Your Partner Too Insecure (or anxious or depressed?)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EadWBnhREs0

I wish I didn’t see this so often with couples: one partner thinks the other is just way too anxious or insecure – and they’re sick of it! No matter how much of a “good guy” or gal they think they’ve been, it is almost always the case that they haven’t worked as deeply as they think! HEALING IS POSSIBLE even if it’s been years…it starts with understanding the truth of these words…

Neat vs. Sloppy: Relationship Hell!

It’s a basic timeless relationship conflict, but it runs so deep: Neat vs. Sloppy. One of you is an organized clean-as-you-go (then go back and tidy) neat-freak, while the other is a slipshod slovenly mess. This conflict usually goes on for years and leads to endless arguing, frustration, resentment, and all kinds of relationship misery. I speak from experience, because my wife of 20 years is efficient, meticulous, and clean, while I am a scattered spontaneous slob. I also speak from experience when I tell you that we have completely solved this dilemma. I will share
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How to Discuss “Eggshell” Topics

One of the biggest challenges couples face is: how to talk about “eggshell” topics – those topics that you can’t discuss without fighting, or hurting feelings, or getting defensive – topics that one way or another, whenever you approach them, you both ending up feeling like crap about the relationship… Topics like: in-laws and relatives and friends you disagree on; past hurts, or future plans; personal hygiene, kids – and of course, money…you avoid these topics, yet they simmer unspoken beneath the surface; live-wire obstacles to real trust and intimacy and fulfillment. That’s why there shouldn’t
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Video: How Parents Fighting Affects Teens and Kids

If there is tension and fighting between you and your partner, this video will help you understand, in ways you may not have understood before, the effects on teens and kids. If you’re on the front home page of my blog, click on the title of this article. Or if you’re already on the single page for this article, here’s the link right here : How Parents Fighting Affects Teens and Kids

Florida School Shooting – Reflections from a Healer and Therapist

Another mass shooting yesterday…another school assaulted….unbearable pain for the kids and families…agony in our hearts…we send prayers to Florida, and at the same time feel helpless that this is all we can do…. We all share the same wounded scream to the heavens: “WHY, GOD? HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?” And also: How can we prevent these atrocities? Here are some reflections on those questions (because that is all I can do…): There is nothing more basic than the need for safety – food, shelter, family (of some kind), social bonds…a civilization where we connect and lead
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Stop Fighting: Step One

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XelwII_epCE&t=3s

This is always the first thing anyone must learn to break through their old habits of fighting and arguing in their relationship – or in any life conflict, really…