What If Ray’s “Stay Calm” Advice to Stop Fighting “Doesn’t Work?”

Well, obviously if I’m putting quotes around “doesn’t work,” it means my advice really does work – and powerfully! But I get it: what if you take the initiative during a moment of high tension to be calm and caring, but they still keep coming at you like a wild man or woman? Don’t worry – just be patient, and watch this video…you’ll get it! If you are reading this from the blog front page, click the title of this article, or else just click this link right here…

Video Blog: Stop Letting Emotion Control Your Words!

When tension breaks out between you and your partner, do anger and blame take you over – so totally! – that you can’t stop yourself from saying things that can only make it all worse – even if you are TOTALLY RIGHT? Here’s a little teaching that might help you out…to watch the video if you’re on this blog’s front page, click on this article’s title, or else just click this link.

Video Blog: “But I Didn’t Say That!” – (When Your Partner Goes Nuts Over Nothing!)

There you are, having a rational discussion, when suddenly your partner misinterprets something you said – and goes ballistic on you! Even worse, no matter how you explain, they CLING to their anger – they won’t listen to reason! Well, the next time this happens, just think about this: (from the front page of the Beyond Therapy blog, click on the title of this article, or else just click this link

Relationship Squabbles: Are You A Straight-Talker, or Just a Jerk?

When squabbles come up between you and your partner, are you a straight-talking truth-teller? Or is that just how you rationalize being mean? There is a better way, you know: you can actually handle these scenes in a way that brings you closer together, instead of creating a rift! If you are on this blog’s front page click the title of this article to watch the video, or else just click this link.

Video Blog: Heal Relationship Stress With Psychic Method! (just hear me out, ok?)

OK, my title sounds pretty dubious  – do you like the picture? – but no matter who you are, if you’re stressed out in your relationship, and you watch the video, you will know I speak only Truth about your problem – and the solution! If you are on the front page of the blog, click on this article’s title for the video, or else just click here to watch it.

Video Blog: Lovemaking Performance Anxiety – Helpful Words from a Therapist

Here is the gentle truth about sexual performance anxiety – I send this video with love and care, and hopeful blessings for you! If you are on this blog’s front page click on this article’s title, or else just click this link…

Video Blog: Why Lovemaking Fails…

You love each other – so why is it so weird? This could be the key….if you are on the blog front page, click on this article’s title to get to the video page, where you can click this link…

Video Blog: Is Your Partner Too Insecure (or anxious or depressed)?

I wish I didn’t see this so often with couples – one partner feels the other is just way too anxious or insecure – and they’re sick of it! But no matter how much of a “good guy” or gal they think they’ve been, it is almost ALWAYS the case that they haven’t worked as deeply as they think…if you’re on this blog’s homepage with all the other articles, first click on the title of this article – then once you’re one the page where this article is all by itself, you will be able to
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Is Your Partner Too Insecure (or anxious or depressed?)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EadWBnhREs0

I wish I didn’t see this so often with couples: one partner thinks the other is just way too anxious or insecure – and they’re sick of it! No matter how much of a “good guy” or gal they think they’ve been, it is almost always the case that they haven’t worked as deeply as they think! HEALING IS POSSIBLE even if it’s been years…it starts with understanding the truth of these words…

Neat vs. Sloppy: Relationship Hell!

It’s a basic timeless relationship conflict, but it runs so deep: Neat vs. Sloppy. One of you is an organized clean-as-you-go (then go back and tidy) neat-freak, while the other is a slipshod slovenly mess. This conflict usually goes on for years and leads to endless arguing, frustration, resentment, and all kinds of relationship misery. I speak from experience, because my wife of 20 years is efficient, meticulous, and clean, while I am a scattered spontaneous slob. I also speak from experience when I tell you that we have completely solved this dilemma. I will share
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